JUST MY TYPE
a 3-day virtual group cohort
for enneagram ones only.
A deep dive into how your enneagram type becomes itself all over again (and again, and again)
only 12 spots
September 28, 30, & October 2
10 am-12:30 pm est.
Can't make the dates? NO WORRIES!!
You will get lifetime replay, worksheets, cohort slides, audio and video recordings, the opportunity to submit and still have questions answered and more.
JUST
MY TYPE IS…
A live 3-day deep dive designed to help you finally understand the deeper intelligence, scaffolding, and foundations underneath your recurring bullsh*t personality patterns so you can finally answer WHY DO I DO THAT, WHY DO I KEEP DOING THAT, AND HOW DO I STOP?
JUST MY TYPE helps you deep dive into what you need to do things differently than you would automatically do them…
with JUST your type.
YOU KNOW YOUR TYPE.
You get it… “I HAVE TO CHANGE MY STANDARDS” (whatever let the world fall apart see if i care!)
YOU have access to all the information about YOU.
So then why is it so damn hard to break up with your recurring, bullsh*t personality patterns?
Because personality isn't meant to be convenient, random, or easy to change.
Because personality serves a defensive purpose.
Because personality is designed to protect you while you get what you want, and it's the most automatic thing about you.
That's why.
And everyone at this table gets it.
Pull up a chair. You don't have to explain yourself here.
It's your table, too.
Through the understanding of The Enneagram, Jackie has been able to not only help me understand myself more but also help me break the emotional and mental chains that held me back.
JAMIE
There's nothing that keeps us stuck quite like knowing you're an enneagram one but still…
Spending so much time, energy, and emotional effort doing things in line with things you feel responsible for, like other people's mistakes, the tone of the room, the outcome and the ways things are done, and how things are according to how they should be
Feeling the internal tension of keeping your behavior, your emotions, and your relentless desire to be good, do good, be better, and do better constantly
Even when things are good or going well things still feel not good enough, and you still don't feel like enough
There's constant pressure under the surface… a tension and tightness around what you feel needs to be different, correct, in line, improved, managed, corrected, refined, or under control… thennnnn you can unclench and let go and relax
The rigidity, self-criticism, and chronic disappointment seem automatic and inevitable, and anger, resentment, and irritation feel like they hit out of nowhere
You feel emotionally backed up in a way that you know needs to be dealt with so you can move forward, but also feels out of control and dangerous to being in line
You're torn between wanting the freedom of rest, play, messiness, and letting go… and constantly tightening yourself against the imperfections that no humans are exempt from
Feel like you have to have everything together, be the one who is “the only friggin adult around here”, and impossible to just let things go
You're getting the feedback from others that you are acting superior, and you have no idea what that has to do with you wanting things to be better than they are right now
Then you're in the right place.
Our cohort starts on SEPTEMBER 28
Our session was insanely informative, […] incredibly validating and in turn, healing.
It helped me feel like I’m on the right path, and further along than I give myself credit for.
sami
What are days 1-3 like?
WHY DO I DO THAT?
Understanding what you want, what you are protecting and, since personality serves of defensive purpose, what we are defending after all. We will lay the foundation for why your patterns make physical, mental, emotional sense to you. Type, meet the CORES, key beliefs, and everything in between.
WHY DO I KEEP DOING THAT?
How does my type keep perpetuating the personality patterns in my life? Here we learned the main traits, subtypes, and more areas that reveal loops, actions and reactions, emotional and mental habits, and the main traits that make personality re-create a loop in itself.
HOW DO I STOP?
The big question for us all. On day three we work towards what conscious interruption looks like, rather than the idea that these patterns are some thing we have to get past. We lay out a full-time type continuum and what real time interruption looks like for us, as well as addressing the fear of “letting go” of our personalities.
we start in…
HERE'S WHAT'S COVERED:
More than just basics, how the core mechanism of your type sets the blueprint for what you want and how you get it.
What the core struggle of resentment actually is and how it's a by-product of gut center anger
The conscious and subconscious key beliefs that uphold our recurring vices
Your main traits of thinking, feeling, and behaving that are perpetuated by your vice, your core desire, and the defensive purpose your personality serves.
The defense mechanisms and mental and emotional habits that are so automatic that they feel justified.
Instincts, subtypes, and how HOW we do our WHY has a huge impact on our patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving
How our core recurring struggle organizes our personality and stacks our priorities
The TRIADS that make up your type
ALL recurring, bullsh*t patterns every single one of these areas of life.
well hurry! there are only 12 spots
As someone who has been learning about the enneagram for a couple of years, I took away lots of new key insights about myself!
Jackie is upbeat, positive, and passionate about seeing people get 'unstuck' and reaching their fullest potential.
gisselle
So here's what I'd like you to leave with after 3 days, even though you'll still leave as an enneagram one…
the start of self compassion, relief from the internal pressure, and emotional flexibility while still being able to be you, have standards, want to be better, and give a crap
understanding how patterns of perfectionism and control show up so that we don't confuse our intentions with our patterns and actually have what we need to change what we have the power to
understanding what you need to about resentment so that you can recognize the value of anger, when it's showing up, and how to deal with it when it's already gone sideways into resentment
understanding how the way through resentment is anger, and how emotional over-control leads to becoming emotionally moody and out of control
awareness of suppression of anger, self-monitoring, and what the threat is if you haven't gotten things right where needed, and how it's showing up in your life
learning the mechanics under the automatic scanning, improving, bettering, and how to know when standards are coming from integrity vs a desire for non-existent perfection
understanding the recurring patterns that make being wrong, changing your way of doing things, and accepting yourself and things the way they are feel threatening to you and your personal wellbeing
understanding the connections between your desire to be good, the pressure others may feel, and the expectation you put on yourself to get it right every time
seeing how your desire to do things or have things the right way all the time can keep you from really actually doing or having things at all
12
IS THE MAXIMUM AMOUNT OF SEATS FOR EACH JUST MY TYPE TABLE.
(I like things cozy.)
YOU'RE LIVING THE AUTOMATIC PATTERNS YOU WANT OUT OF.
YOU MIGHT AS WELL UNDERSTAND THEM ENOUGH TO GIVE YOURSELF THE CHOICE.
JUST MY TYPE FOR ONES
isn't for everyone, but it is for you if…
You know that you know that you know that you're an Enneagram One
You are tired tired tired of what you are carrying, sick of hearing that it's an invisible responsibility, and want to understand why you want to make things and yourself better… but others don't
You are exhausted by the pressure to constantly monitor yourself, your choices, your emotions, your mistakes, and whether or not you're living up to standard… and sometimes you feel that way about others, too
You are frustrated, resentful, and chronically disappointed with the gap between how things are and how things should or could be… and it's really messing with your ability to be here with the live you are trying to live and love
You can sense that there is a part of you that is against your constant self-improvement projects, and that makes you feel out-of-control, incorrect, and like you might go off the deep end.. and you just want to let it go
You have no idea how to let go of your standards so you would rather keep trying than re-adjust, and that cycle is making you miss that your inner knowing has turned inner critic to keep you in line
You want to understand why resting, receiving, relaxing, making mistakes, letting go, expressing anger, being wrong, multiple right ways of doing things, and allowing yourself to be human is so much harder than it “should” be
You know that the only way to become someone you can actually “approve” of is to understand the deeper mechanics behind standards, needs for control, anger and it's mismanagement, and excessively hard work
YOU ARE UNSURE WHY YOU REALLY DO THAT (THE INNER PRESSURE TO CONTROL YOURSELF, OTHERS, AND HOW THINGS ARE DONE, EMOTIONAL SELF OVER-CONTROL, SELF-MONITORING, REPRESSION AND MISHANDLING OF ANGER, CHRONIC DISAPPOINTMENT CORROBORATING WITH INNER CRITICAL VOICE) AND HOW YOU REALLY STOP
$247
the time and material in just my type is valued at $1,500
FAQ
WHAT EXACTLY IS JUST MY TYPE?
Just My Type is a live, type-specific-ONLY deep dive over 3 days and 6.5 hours together.
It's designed to help you understand the deeper emotional, mental, behavioral, and instinctual patterns under your recurring bullsh*t personality patterns… Around a table of people who are only your Enneagram type.
We go over core-to-pattern continuums in a way that is designed to help us answer the questions, “Why do I do that?” and “How do I stop?”
IS THIS FOR ENNEAGRAM BEGINNERS?
Not really. This space is best suited for people who already know their enneagram type and have a need to go beyond basic or introductory description and into a level of information designed to make actualized changes. You don't need to be an expert, but you should have some foundational familiarity around your type structure. If you're not sure what your Enneagram type is, try a typing session.
IS THIS INTERACTIVE?
Yes, it is as interactive as you want it to be. There will be heavy teaching, interpretation, frameworking and more, but there will also be live discussion, hot seat coaching, and a safe space for shared observations and real time reflection and processing… all with people who are just your type. You can also choose to opt out of interacting.
WILL I HAVE ACCESS TO REPLAYS?
Yes, for life. All live sessions will be recorded and uploaded to a shared drive. You will have lifetime access to the material. This also means that if you can't make it live, you don't need to sweat it. You can learn through the replays.
WHAT RESULTS SHOULD I EXPECT?
Just My Type's goals are based in setting the beginning of a much deeper relationship with yourself.
While you will not become a “better type” in 3 days, you will leave having a deeper self-recognition of patterns and where they come from, emotional clarity, pattern awareness, language for internal and external experiences, a map for the logic underneath thinking, feeling and behaving, and the beginning to interrupting automatic patterns.
CAN I JOIN MULTIPLE TABLES?
No. You should only join the cohort of your actual Enneagram type, but you get points for wanting to be a good friend. The depth of this experience is meant to be based on shared safety. You can purchase the course recording after the live cohort, which is not include the discussion pieces and hot seat coaching. Thanks for being patient and keeping the spaces safe for everyone. I love you so much!
IS JUST MY TYPE REFUNDABLE?
All sales of Just My Type are final, but transferrable. If you want to transfer sale/attendance to another individual OR another type table pending approval before cohort start, please email [email protected]
I left armed with an arsenal of information that could propel me in the direction of a more fulfilled life. If you’re looking to gain insight into what makes you tick Jackie is your girl.
LUCY
JACKIE CONTESSA
HOST OF THE 3-DAY-COHORT
HI!! I'm Jackie Contessa. I'm an Enneagram coach, a life coach, host of the Table for 9 Podcast, and I specialize in what comes after learning about your Enneagram personality type…
Breaking up with your recurring bullsh*t personality patterns.
Here are a few things about me.
I believe that someone “like you” is WITHOUT A DOUBT capable of doing something “like that”.
I believe you can only be empowered as yourself to ultimately be yourself.
And I believe the table has room for everyone, and every table you sit at should always have room for the real you… sans personality patterns.
Love ya! Mean it!!!!!!
JUST MY TYPE FOR ENNEAGRAM ONES
STARTS IN…
let go or be dragged.
break up with your recurring,
bullsh*t personality patterns.
go from enemies to lovers with yourself.
the seat is yours if you want it.