JUST MY TYPE
a 3-day virtual group cohort
for enneagram fours only.
A deep dive into how your enneagram type becomes itself all over again (and again, and again)
only 12 spots
10 spots left
october 19, 21, & 23
10 am-12:30 pm est.
Can't make the dates? NO WORRIES!!
You will get lifetime replay, worksheets, cohort slides, audio and video recordings, the opportunity to submit and still have questions answered and more.
JUST
MY TYPE IS…
A live 3-day deep dive designed to help you finally understand the deeper intelligence, scaffolding, and foundations underneath your recurring bullsh*t personality patterns so you can finally answer WHY DO I DO THAT, WHY DO I KEEP DOING THAT, AND HOW DO I STOP?
JUST MY TYPE helps you deep dive into what you need to do things differently than you would automatically do them…
with JUST your type.
YOU KNOW YOUR TYPE.
You get it… “I HAVE TO BE MYSELF INSTEAD OF FIND MYSELF AND FINDING MYSELF CAN'T BE MY WHOLE IDENTITY” (WHATEVER YOU WOULDN'T GET IT ANYWAY!)
YOU have access to all the information about YOU.
So then why is it so damn hard to break up with your recurring, bullsh*t personality patterns?
Because personality isn't meant to be convenient, random, or easy to change.
Because personality serves a defensive purpose.
Because personality is designed to protect you while you get what you want, and it's the most automatic thing about you.
That's why.
And everyone at this table gets it.
Pull up a chair. You don't have to explain yourself here.
It's your table, too.
If you're looking for a yes person who will tell you what you want to hear, look elsewhere.
If what you want is authentic, insightful and helpful feedback coated with wisdom instead of sugar, then Jackie is 1,000% your girl.
CAROLINE
There's nothing that keeps us stuck quite like knowing you're an enneagram four but still…
Spending so much of your mental and emotional energy being painfully self-literate, emotionally complex in a way that needs to be understood, and feeling fundamentally lacking elements that come easily to others
Being trapped inside cycles of longing, comparison, nostalgia, emotional overwhelm, disappointment, and anticipating or trying to get ahead of abandonment
Revisiting memories, feelings, and pains repeatedly to make meaning, “find yourself”, and locate the “missing piece” of you that will make you the version of yourself you are “supposed” to become
Start with admiration and recognition of beauty in life, the world, and others, but somehow always end up at envy, comparison, and shame and frustration around who you are as a person
Find yourself fighting the tension between desperately wanting to make a mark as your authentic self and the deep-seated fear that you are ordinary and incomplete
Feeling a deep desire to be fully alive, fully real, fully witnessed by others in your full expression, and fully connected and belonging in the world… but always feeling too different or other to be understood
Struggling and borderline REFUSING to trust that who you are right now is enough, full, complete, and the authentic you without needing to discover something else
Feeling like what happened to you and how you felt about it is a piece of identity that you can't let go of, and you don't know what to do with that
Wanting to be fully seen and witnessed, living out life as you but fearing that that person just… isn't enough… and feeling like you have irrefutable proof of that
Then you're in the right place.
Our cohort starts on OCTOBER 19
“Jackie helped to remove popular rhetoric from the types and really get down to the true essence of the types. She provides a safe place to explore your motives and reality of your heart.”
ASHLEY
What are days 1-3 like?
WHY DO I DO THAT?
Understanding what you want, what you are protecting and, since personality serves of defensive purpose, what we are defending after all. We will lay the foundation for why your patterns make physical, mental, emotional sense to you. Type, meet the CORES, key beliefs, and everything in between.
WHY DO I KEEP DOING THAT?
How does my type keep perpetuating the personality patterns in my life? Here we learned the main traits, subtypes, and more areas that reveal loops, actions and reactions, emotional and mental habits, and the main traits that make personality re-create a loop in itself.
HOW DO I STOP?
The big question for us all. On day three we work towards what conscious interruption looks like, rather than the idea that these patterns are some thing we have to get past. We lay out a full-time type continuum and what real time interruption looks like for us, as well as addressing the fear of “letting go” of our personalities.
we start in…
HERE'S WHAT'S COVERED:
More than just basics, how the core mechanism of your type sets the blueprint for what you want and how you get it.
What the core struggle of envy actually is and how it's a by-product of heart center shame… and ISN'T jealousy!
The conscious and subconscious key beliefs that uphold our recurring vices
Your main traits of thinking, feeling, and behaving that are perpetuated by your vice, your core desire, and the defensive purpose your personality serves.
The defense mechanisms and mental and emotional habits that are so automatic that they feel justified.
Instincts, subtypes, and how HOW we do our WHY has a huge impact on our patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving
How our core recurring struggle organizes our personality and stacks our priorities
The TRIADS that make up your type
ALL recurring, bullsh*t patterns every single one of these areas of life.
well hurry! there are only 12 spots
She was able to uncover some of my most questionable behaviors with such grace and value. Talking about yourself is quite challenging, but Jackie creates a safe place for anyone to share their stories without an ounce of judgement.
She is a phenomenal coach, extremely professional and authentic.
brenda
So here's what I'd like you to leave with after 3 days, even though you'll still leave as an enneagram four…
understanding THE WHY behind your return to certain emotional places, truths, narratives, and meaning-making
the map around how your PERSONALITY will keep you in patterns of emotional intensity, comparison, and searching for a missing something so that you will never actually be you
understanding what you need to about envy so that you can stop organizing your personality through finding a missing piece that isn't missing
clarity around why some things and situations can't just happen and be over, and sometimes feel like they become part of you, your story, and your ever-changing identity
recognizing the difference between honoring your full emotional depth and experience and dwelling, amplifying, or becoming trapped in an emotional pattern to DISTRACT YOU from the REAL pain under the longing
the ability to know when you are genuinely expressing who you are and how you feel instead of intensifying your pain to feel different, on top, and a little closer to complete
understanding what defensive purpose your personality serves when it makes you revisit the past, feel a sense of nostalgia for something you lost, and make you long for something in the idealized future
how to separate who you are from your patterns of personality so that you can trust the authenticity of the person in the mirror and accept will full conviction you already are who you want to be
separate the valuable data that your full range of emotions offers you without allowing them to anchor you to a story that will become an identity
12
IS THE MAXIMUM AMOUNT OF SEATS FOR EACH JUST MY TYPE TABLE.
(I like things cozy.)
(And you like things limited edition.)
(win-win.)
YOU'RE LIVING THE AUTOMATIC PATTERNS YOU WANT OUT OF.
YOU MIGHT AS WELL UNDERSTAND THEM ENOUGH TO GIVE YOURSELF THE CHOICE.
JUST MY TYPE FOR FOURS
isn't for everyone, but it is for you if…
You know that you know that you know that you're an Enneagram Four
You feel like you have spent your whole life trying to understand yourself, get others to understand you, find yourself, express yourself, and become the person you feel you're meant to be… but it's IMPOSSIBLE and you can't help but feel like you're the common denominator
You are stuck ranking and comparing things to yourself.. where other people are, what they have, what comes easily to them… and you always find yourself lacking and feeling like something is wrong with you after admiring someone else's life
You keep revisiting old feelings, stories, pains, and versions of yourself… pushing into old wounds and narratives to try and find some kind of meaning and aliveness, only to be reminded that you are not where or who you want to be
You are by nature emotionally intense and you believe it makes you you, but you also struggle to find the line between your emotional truth and the objective facts
You are CONSTANTLY frustrated in the present because you're swinging between nostalgia for a time that is only better in hindsight and an ideal you that doesn't exist yet
You are feeling a massive tension between the desire to fully belong, connect, and be witnessed, and the desire to stand out, be unique, and leave your mark… and you often feel like you are both too much and not enough, ever
You have mental narratives surrounding your longing, comparison, identity, whether or not you are going to leave your mark, and what you need to do to be the idealized version of you… but you always seem to fall short and just stick with longing for something that is unavailable
YOU ARE UNSURE WHY YOU REALLY DO THAT (LONGING, PUSHING INTO SORROW, ROMANTICIZING PAIN, DESIRE FOR INTENSITY, NEED FOR EMOTIONAL WITNESSING, FEAR OF BEING MISUNDERSTOOD, STAY STUCK IN FANTASY AND PAIN, CONSTANTLY SEARCH FOR YOURSELF, NEED PAIN TO FEEL FULLY ALIVE) AND HOW YOU REALLY STOP
$247
the time and material in just my type is valued at $1,500
FAQ
WHAT EXACTLY IS JUST MY TYPE?
Just My Type is a live, type-specific-ONLY deep dive over 3 days and 6.5 hours together.
It's designed to help you understand the deeper emotional, mental, behavioral, and instinctual patterns under your recurring bullsh*t personality patterns… Around a table of people who are only your Enneagram type.
We go over core-to-pattern continuums in a way that is designed to help us answer the questions, “Why do I do that?” and “How do I stop?”
IS THIS FOR ENNEAGRAM BEGINNERS?
Not really. This space is best suited for people who already know their enneagram type and have a need to go beyond basic or introductory description and into a level of information designed to make actualized changes. You don't need to be an expert, but you should have some foundational familiarity around your type structure. If you're not sure what your Enneagram type is, try a typing session.
IS THIS INTERACTIVE?
Yes, it is as interactive as you want it to be. There will be heavy teaching, interpretation, frameworking and more, but there will also be live discussion, hot seat coaching, and a safe space for shared observations and real time reflection and processing… all with people who are just your type. You can also choose to opt out of interacting.
WILL I HAVE ACCESS TO REPLAYS?
Yes, for life. All live sessions will be recorded and uploaded to a shared drive. You will have lifetime access to the material. This also means that if you can't make it live, you don't need to sweat it. You can learn through the replays.
WHAT RESULTS SHOULD I EXPECT?
Just My Type's goals are based in setting the beginning of a much deeper relationship with yourself.
While you will not become a “better type” in 3 days, you will leave having a deeper self-recognition of patterns and where they come from, emotional clarity, pattern awareness, language for internal and external experiences, a map for the logic underneath thinking, feeling and behaving, and the beginning to interrupting automatic patterns.
CAN I JOIN MULTIPLE TABLES?
No. You should only join the cohort of your actual Enneagram type, but you get points for wanting to be a good friend. The depth of this experience is meant to be based on shared safety. You can purchase the course recording after the live cohort, which is not include the discussion pieces and hot seat coaching. Thanks for being patient and keeping the spaces safe for everyone. I love you so much!
IS JUST MY TYPE REFUNDABLE?
All sales of Just My Type are final, but transferrable. If you want to transfer sale/attendance to another individual OR another type table pending approval before cohort start, please email [email protected]
She paved the way for self healing & radical growth.
If you want to truly discover yourself in a deep & meaningful way using the enneagram I absolutely recommend […] Jackie.
ERIN
JACKIE CONTESSA
HOST OF THE 3-DAY-COHORT
HI!! I'm Jackie Contessa. I'm an Enneagram coach, a life coach, host of the Table for 9 Podcast, and I specialize in what comes after learning about your Enneagram personality type…
Breaking up with your recurring bullsh*t personality patterns.
Here are a few things about me.
I believe that someone “like you” is WITHOUT A DOUBT capable of doing something “like that”.
I believe you can only be empowered as yourself to ultimately be yourself.
And I believe the table has room for everyone, and every table you sit at should always have room for the real you… sans personality patterns.
Love ya! Mean it!!!!!!
JUST MY TYPE FOR ENNEAGRAM FOURS
STARTS IN…
let go or be dragged.
break up with your recurring,
bullsh*t personality patterns.
go from enemies to lovers with yourself.
the seat is yours if you want it.