JUST MY TYPE
a 3-day virtual group cohort
for enneagram nines only.
A deep dive into how your enneagram type becomes itself all over again (and again, and again)
only 12 spots
11 SPOTS LEFT
SEPTEMBER 21, 23, & 24
10 am-12:30 pm est.
Can't make the dates? NO WORRIES!!
You will get lifetime replay, worksheets, cohort slides, audio and video recordings, the opportunity to submit and still have questions answered and more.
JUST
MY TYPE IS…
A live 3-day deep dive designed to help you finally understand the deeper intelligence, scaffolding, and foundations underneath your recurring bullsh*t personality patterns so you can finally answer WHY DO I DO THAT, WHY DO I KEEP DOING THAT, AND HOW DO I STOP?
JUST MY TYPE helps you deep dive into what you need to do things differently than you would automatically do them…
with JUST your type.
YOU KNOW YOUR TYPE.
You get it… “I can't erase myself to keep the peace.” (whatever! it's not even about “peace”!)
YOU have access to all the information about YOU.
So then why is it so damn hard to break up with your recurring, bullsh*t personality patterns?
Because personality isn't meant to be convenient, random, or easy to change.
Because personality serves a defensive purpose.
Because personality is designed to protect you while you get what you want, and it's the most automatic thing about you.
That's why.
And everyone at this table gets it.
Pull up a chair. You don't have to explain yourself here.
It's your table, too.
You won't find a more comprehensive deep dive into your Enneagram type than with […] Jackie Contessa. […]
Even if you think you've got a grasp on your type and why you do the things you do, I promise you'll come out of this with something new and immediately applicable to be the best version of yourself.
KYLEE
There's nothing that keeps us stuck quite like knowing you're an enneagram nine but still…
Putting your known opinions, what you know you need, want, should prioritize, and desires on the back burner… on top of having a hard time connecting with that interiority at all
Avoiding conversations, decisions, boundaries, conversations, or change and movement until the issues become much bigger than they should
Knowing what needs to happen but feeling unable to do it or move toward it because you believe there will be more convenient time to act, start, leave, speak up, ask, or decide.
Believing that keeping the peace or avoiding a disruption is always worth the cost and every single time the cost ends up being yourself
Feeling resentful of the people around you whom you love and want to stay connected to, but not even realizing how much and how often you've been disappearing and merging inside the connection
Choosing comfort, saying it's fine when it's not fine, and every time the anger starts to creep up… you reach for your phone or book and check out
Saying yes against your gut no's for so long that you don't even know how to do what your gut tells you is important anymore… the line between what is actually okay and what you've just stopped arguing with is blurred
Knowing that you know that you know that you know something is important and somehow being disconnected from the urgency and the agency
Looking back and realizing your life has been shaped more by what you didn't choose than by what you did… and it's still happening now
Then you're in the right place.
Our cohort starts on SEPTEMBER 21
Let her lead you like she has led me to recognize that the greenest grass is right where you're standing as long as you take the time to care for it.
CAROLINE
What are days 1-3 like?
WHY DO I DO THAT?
Understanding what you want, what you are protecting and, since personality serves of defensive purpose, what we are defending after all. We will lay the foundation for why your patterns make physical, mental, emotional sense to you. Type, meet the CORES, key beliefs, and everything in between.
WHY DO I KEEP DOING THAT?
How does my type keep perpetuating the personality patterns in my life? Here we learned the main traits, subtypes, and more areas that reveal loops, actions and reactions, emotional and mental habits, and the main traits that make personality re-create a loop in itself.
HOW DO I STOP?
The big question for us all. On day three we work towards what conscious interruption looks like, rather than the idea that these patterns are some thing we have to get past. We lay out a full-time type continuum and what real time interruption looks like for us, as well as addressing the fear of “letting go” of our personalities.
we start in…
HERE'S WHAT'S COVERED:
More than just basics, how the core mechanism of your type sets the blueprint for what you want and how you get it.
What the core struggle of disengagement actually is and how it's a by-product of gut center anger… yes, it's still there if you're ignoring it
The conscious and subconscious key beliefs that uphold our recurring vices
Your main traits of thinking, feeling, and behaving that are perpetuated by your vice, your core desire, and the defensive purpose your personality serves.
The defense mechanisms and mental and emotional habits that are so automatic that they feel justified.
Instincts, subtypes, and how HOW we do our WHY has a huge impact on our patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving
How our core recurring struggle organizes our personality and stacks our priorities
The TRIADS that make up your type
ALL recurring, bullsh*t patterns every single one of these areas of life.
well hurry! there are only 12 spots
I love the words and pictures Jackie provides to help explain and support a perspective. I’ve already felt shifts in my thinking which helps me take responsibility for the outcome.
I would easily recommend Jackie if you are invested in understanding the “why” for yourself.
JULIE-ANN
So here's what I'd like you to leave with after 3 days, even though you'll still leave as an enneagram nine…
understanding why a change, a move, an action, a boundary, a truth, a decision, a beginning, and an ending are actually hard… and it's not just conflict
what the foundations and prework looks like to actually connect with self and maintain that connection when numbing out and going with the flow proves easier… and why taking action is so damn hard to begin with
understanding what you need to about disengagement so that you can recognize how to balance engagement in your world and the world without the fear of disruption
clarity on patterns and cycles of disengagement, resignation, indecision, avoidance, and more so that you can recognize what you think, feel, and want before an automatic merge
understanding where your energy goes and the defensive purpose behind merging, numbing, delaying, and the self-assumption that you are unmotivated or slower than others in a way that is broken
feeling capable of taking clear action instead of being stuck in indecision, and feeling capable enough to see it through, because you know how to connect with what matters and why you disconnect from effort
understanding the value of your perspective, your anger, and your connection to yourself for the cohesion, harmony, and homeostasis you want in your world
being able to understand your inner tension between merging and individuation so that you can have both in healthy increments
learning the actual cost of what you consider to be peace and harmony, and how to avoid only one thing going forward… paying that heavy cost of self-erasure
12
IS THE MAXIMUM AMOUNT OF SEATS FOR EACH JUST MY TYPE TABLE.
(I like things cozy.)
(BYOB!!!!!! BRING YOUR OWN BLANKIE!)
YOU'RE LIVING THE AUTOMATIC PATTERNS YOU WANT OUT OF.
YOU MIGHT AS WELL UNDERSTAND THEM ENOUGH TO GIVE YOURSELF THE CHOICE.
JUST MY TYPE FOR NINES
isn't for everyone, but it is for you if…
You know that you know that you know that you're an Enneagram Nine
You have spent yearsssss automatically adapting, accommodating, maintaining cohesion, taking a step back to make space with others, and avoiding disruption… and the years are just flying by but you feel like you're missing something
You avoid conflict and disruption, but not without cost to you… frustration that you have to numb out, resentment that leaks out, and exhaustion with how much energy it takes to control it… but you don't want to carry through life like that anymore
You are disconnected from your own priorities, angers, desires, and motivations… you wouldn't even know where to start, and you wouldn't even know why you can't easily connect to your own life
You know there are things you need to say, do, decide, change, pursue, end, and stand up against, but you find yourself waiting until it's not important anymore… and the time never comes to prioritize yourself
You want to understand how your avoidance, peacekeeping, inertia issues, self-erasure, emotional numbing, hidden anger, inner disconnect, and fear of being fully awake and engaged are really “protecting” you… if they are hurting your connection to life, self, and others.
You cannot stand how things are and you are longing for clarity, movement, presence, purpose, aliveness, intention and SELF-CONNECTION lived on the outside, without believing there will be a rupture in cohesion and homeostasis
You want to be 100% sure that you have given the people around you whom you love the opportunity to actually fully know you by beginning to know yourself
YOU ARE UNSURE WHY YOU REALLY DO THAT (PEACEKEEPING, AVOIDANCE, SELF-ERASURE, STUBBORNNESS, PLAYING DEAD TO STAY ALIVE, COMFORT SEEKING, GOING ALONG TO GET ALONG, HIDDEN ANGER, REGRET, INDECISION, REFUSAL TO SEE WHAT'S REALLY THERE) AND HOW YOU REALLY STOP
$247
the time and material in just my type is valued at $1,500
FAQ
WHAT EXACTLY IS JUST MY TYPE?
Just My Type is a live, type-specific-ONLY deep dive over 3 days and 6.5 hours together.
It's designed to help you understand the deeper emotional, mental, behavioral, and instinctual patterns under your recurring bullsh*t personality patterns… Around a table of people who are only your Enneagram type.
We go over core-to-pattern continuums in a way that is designed to help us answer the questions, “Why do I do that?” and “How do I stop?”
IS THIS FOR ENNEAGRAM BEGINNERS?
Not really. This space is best suited for people who already know their enneagram type and have a need to go beyond basic or introductory description and into a level of information designed to make actualized changes. You don't need to be an expert, but you should have some foundational familiarity around your type structure. If you're not sure what your Enneagram type is, try a typing session.
IS THIS INTERACTIVE?
Yes, it is as interactive as you want it to be. There will be heavy teaching, interpretation, frameworking and more, but there will also be live discussion, hot seat coaching, and a safe space for shared observations and real time reflection and processing… all with people who are just your type. You can also choose to opt out of interacting.
WILL I HAVE ACCESS TO REPLAYS?
Yes, for life. All live sessions will be recorded and uploaded to a shared drive. You will have lifetime access to the material. This also means that if you can't make it live, you don't need to sweat it. You can learn through the replays.
WHAT RESULTS SHOULD I EXPECT?
Just My Type's goals are based in setting the beginning of a much deeper relationship with yourself.
While you will not become a “better type” in 3 days, you will leave having a deeper self-recognition of patterns and where they come from, emotional clarity, pattern awareness, language for internal and external experiences, a map for the logic underneath thinking, feeling and behaving, and the beginning to interrupting automatic patterns.
CAN I JOIN MULTIPLE TABLES?
No. You should only join the cohort of your actual Enneagram type, but you get points for wanting to be a good friend. The depth of this experience is meant to be based on shared safety. You can purchase the course recording after the live cohort, which is not include the discussion pieces and hot seat coaching. Thanks for being patient and keeping the spaces safe for everyone. I love you so much!
IS JUST MY TYPE REFUNDABLE?
All sales of Just My Type are final, but transferrable. If you want to transfer sale/attendance to another individual OR another type table pending approval before cohort start, please email [email protected]
Jackie was kind and patient. Very knowledgeable and explained things in a graceful and comprehensive way. The session was informative but also felt collaborative.
Like we were finding me together.
MEGHAN
JACKIE CONTESSA
HOST OF THE 3-DAY-COHORT
HI!! I'm Jackie Contessa. I'm an Enneagram coach, a life coach, host of the Table for 9 Podcast, and I specialize in what comes after learning about your Enneagram personality type…
Breaking up with your recurring bullsh*t personality patterns.
Here are a few things about me.
I believe that someone “like you” is WITHOUT A DOUBT capable of doing something “like that”.
I believe you can only be empowered as yourself to ultimately be yourself.
And I believe the table has room for everyone, and every table you sit at should always have room for the real you… sans personality patterns.
Love ya! Mean it!!!!!!
JUST MY TYPE FOR ENNEAGRAM NINES
STARTS IN…
let go or be dragged.
break up with your recurring,
bullsh*t personality patterns.
go from enemies to lovers with yourself.
the seat is yours if you want it.